Rediscover Self-Love with a Sola Date Night: A Transformative How-To Guide

Feeling lost, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself? It's time for a Sola Date Night — a unique and empowering practice to rekindle intimacy with the most important person in your life: YOU.

The Diagnosis: HYPO-INTIMACY + LOW LEVELS OF FUN

In the midst of a hectic day, when the world demands so much, it's easy to lose touch with ourselves. I don’t know about you, but for me, this happens when I’m staring at my computer, totally clueless about what to do next. Even if I have a to-do list, I feel blurry, or cranky, or some combo of those + general zombie vibes.

Symptoms indicated: hypo-intimacy and low levels of fun. Prescription: the powerful antidote—a Sola Date Night, and we'll guide you through it step by step.

The Unconventional Protocol

You’re probably going to resist the treatment, but if you trust, and give it a try, you’ll find that this is your fastest route back to self-love. Oh!~Livia, Resident Creative Fun Doctor, prescribes a standard-fun protocol that involves your bathroom, kitchen, and a mirror. Embrace the weirdness — it's for your own good.

A Date with Yourself: Step by Step

Follow this step-by-step guide from the Resident Creative Fun Doctor to embark on a Sola Date Night that promises self-discovery and transformation.

Take a little trip to your bathroom. Yup. This is the beginning of embracing the weirdness. 

See if there’s ONE tiny thing you can do to make this room more pleasurable to be in (is it put the cap on the toothpaste? Line up your creams? Light a candle?).

Do that one thing, then get thee to the kitchen. 

Choose something salty, something sweet, and a beverage. If you’re actually hungry, put something actually nourishing on an actual plate. And bring it all back in the bathroom. 

The Threefold Affirmation

Close the door, and find a way to listen to some music. HERE is a playlist I recommend.

Grab some TP, because I’m gonna be real–you just might cry. And if you do, that is the PERFECT thing to happen–go for it!

Practice the magic of self-affirmation. I write “practice” here, because that’s exactly what this is. Whether or not you believe in affirmations, you can practice them. Think of it as research, and see what happens.

Find your own eyes in the mirror, and slowly smile. And whisper to yourself, “I love you.”

You could call it right there. Take a sip of that water and climb back into your computer chair. Or you could be just a tiny bit more like me.

I’ll tell you what I do: After telling myself I love myself, I WINK!

Yes, I want you to wink at your beautiful self in the mirror.  It may feel silly at first, but this transformative practice has been a game-changer for many.

Personally, I usually smile after that first wink, but either way, I tell myself again: “I love you.”

(I’ve noticed regardless of whether it’s my mom or my husband or myself saying it, I don’t really believe that phrase unless I hear it three times in a row. That’s just one of the roadmaps to intimacy I’ve found and charted for myself. You might be similar.)

I wink again. 

I tell myself I love myself for that third time (so I finally believe myself).

You’ve made it! Transformation to the next Level of Fun Intimacy!

Sensory Exploration and Self-Appreciation

Once you begin to believe you love yourself, take a sip of that beverage. Maybe a bite of chocolate. 

Then take those very same fingertips that prepared your snacks, and begin tracing them along your face. 

Keeping your own gaze in the mirror, try running your  fingers through your  hair, or massaging your scalp, whichever feels right in the moment. 

Catch your eyes in the mirror again, wink, and whisper “I love you,” again.

For the finale, often our toughest trick, now say three things you love about your body, outloud. This next finishing touch is CRUCIAL: for any part of your body where you notice disapproval, simply thank that body part. 

For me, one day it might be a dent in my leg I have from an injury, another it might be how I feel about my chin or neck. And it takes real discipline to thank those parts of myself. 

It’s worth it.

The Grand Finale

Conclude your Sola Date Night with a celebration. Dance, indulge in snacks, and express gratitude for the lovely date you've had with yourself. This unconventional practice might just be the key to unlocking a deeper connection with the person who matters most — you.

The Verdict

Skeptical? Give it a try. If you seek more love and intimacy in your life, a Sola Date Night could be the essential exploration you need. The journey has just begun, and with each step, you're paving the way for a more profound relationship with yourself.

It’s true; while a Sola Date Night may seem unconventional, its transformative effects are undeniable. Take the plunge, rediscover self-love, and continue your epic love affair with the most important person in your life — you.